Oh yes, the "you can get another" thing... I don't WANT another, I wanted THAT one!
It's like telling a parent whose child has died "oh, don't be upset, you can just have another, or adopt another." Would you tell that to a parent? The two people who wind up hearing that phrase on a regular basis are pet owners and women who have miscarriages... Because apparently since it "wasn't a baby yet", the mother should feel no grief whatsoever. It doesn't matter what you believe in the pro-life/pro-choice debate, to that mother it was her *child*... And it doesn't matter if that child was still a zygote or was all the way to term, it was still a child to her.
or because it was "just a pet", it's easy to get a replacement. No, there is no replacement. Not for a pet, not for a child. There is getting another pet or trying for another child, but that is to fill the hole in your heart, not to replace the one that is no longer there.
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It's like telling a parent whose child has died "oh, don't be upset, you can just have another, or adopt another." Would you tell that to a parent? The two people who wind up hearing that phrase on a regular basis are pet owners and women who have miscarriages... Because apparently since it "wasn't a baby yet", the mother should feel no grief whatsoever. It doesn't matter what you believe in the pro-life/pro-choice debate, to that mother it was her *child*... And it doesn't matter if that child was still a zygote or was all the way to term, it was still a child to her.
or because it was "just a pet", it's easy to get a replacement. No, there is no replacement. Not for a pet, not for a child. There is getting another pet or trying for another child, but that is to fill the hole in your heart, not to replace the one that is no longer there.