Dealing with death and offering condolences, it's something I've been really bad about. But the last week has taught me a lot.
Someone was trying to express condolences to me, and was saying they were bad at this, they never knew what to say. I told them it's not what people say, barring completely stupid or hurtful stuff, but that they say something that acknowledges that you're in pain, and they wish they could do something. Really, it's the silence, or ignoring what's going on that really hurts.
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Date: 2011-01-27 02:19 am (UTC)Someone was trying to express condolences to me, and was saying they were bad at this, they never knew what to say. I told them it's not what people say, barring completely stupid or hurtful stuff, but that they say something that acknowledges that you're in pain, and they wish they could do something. Really, it's the silence, or ignoring what's going on that really hurts.